Hi, David.
I hope this speaks to your dilemma.
I lifted this excerpt from a sports forum I monitor. You can find the full text at http://www.sportsmidwest.com/wwwboard/iibf/messages/8902.html.
My name is Allan Stover, I am Curtis Stovers' father. My full name is Curtis Stover, his is Curtis
Allan Stover. So at birth we had a sort of special bond.
I am not a speaker, nor am I a political, or a religious man. I pay my taxes, I work hard for
everything I own, I am an independent person with my own beliefs and my own opinions. What you
see is what you get with me...I don't try to be someone I'm not or can't be.
But I am the parent of a special child.(some call him handicapped) A father , a proud father and if I
can give some sort of inspiration or hope to you as a father or parent then I have accomplished
something today.
Although the women go through all the pain at birth, and when they go through a traumatic birth, we
seem to forget that the man goes through the pain and sadness, too. We aren't suppose to show
these feelings and emotions, because we are STRONG and TOUGH! So, I really can't say how I'd
feel if he were born healthy and then after watching him grow up for 18 years...suddenly he can't do
what he used to do.
I can tell you this, while I was at my wife's side through all the emotions and questions, and
reassuring her everything would be all right, there was no one there at night while I sat up and
looked at 4 walls to hold me and tell me it would be OK. As I've stated I'm not a religious person,
because I don't look for some higher being to solve my problems either.
I'm thankful for Curtis, he has changed my life and the way I look at life. I don't take things for
granted anymore. I'm thankful he is alive, he is as healthy as he can be. I'm thankful that he loves
me and can show me he loves me. And I'm thankful that his mind is as normal as me and you. I'm
thankful for the opportunity to raise a child like Curtis, because he has taught me more than I'll ever
be able to teach him about life. And I'm thankful to call him my son, and tell the world he is special.
I have weighed in on most of the subjects in this morality exercise at on time or another. I intend to jump in again at some point.
drose
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