MD mid-life crisis (was: Involved or on the Sideline?)

From: Kevin Perez (juan825diego@yahoo.com)
Date: Sun Aug 07 2005 - 14:40:10 BST

  • Next message: Scott Roberts: "Re: MD MOQ: Involved or on the Sideline?"

    Thanks for the respone jc.

    There's another perspective on dynamic and static
    quality I'd like to share.
    It goes something like this.

    The journey through life for the ordinary man has
    historically started out
    with the objective to succeed, accomplish and change
    the world in some way.
    He would typically be initiated by older men into the
    Mysteries of life and
    death. The purpose of the initiation wasn't to
    explain the Mysteries but to
    bring the young man to an awareness of them. Life
    would explain the
    Mysteries.

    What we have here is a system with both static and
    dynamic elements. The
    man's role in the community and his sense about the
    Mysteries are very
    static. The young man is initiatied into a system
    with very clear rules and
    boundaries. The life of the community demands it.
    And he has only a faint
    clue about the Mysteries.

    And then life begins to do its work and the Mysteries
    begin to unfold.

    After several decades the man sees that his world has
    changed, partly the
    result of his own efforts. And the Mysteries continue
    to unfold. The
    direction of his life's journey begins to change. The
    typically masculine
    virtues that once directed his life now join forces
    with the more feminine
    virtues of humility, patience, openness, trust and
    forgiveness. Objects
    that were once seen as things to control and conquer
    now become
    relationships to love and cherish. And the rules and
    boundaries that were
    once unchangeable now seem less important. And they
    too undergo change. I
    suppose Pirsig would call this changing of community
    rules and boundaries
    Dynamic Quality.

    In the west, if I may call it that, we call this
    transition, the mid-life
    crisis. I wish I could explain the source of this
    crisis. But I can't.
    But I can tell you, from personal experience, that it
    is very real and very
    painful and very scary. I will also tell you that if
    I had to do it all
    over again I would not hesitate. Coming out the other
    side
    is nothing less than a born again experience.

    And the Mysteries continue to unfold.

    Kevin Perez

    ----- Original Message -----
    From: "jc" <jcpryor@nccn.net>
    To: <moq_discuss@moq.org>
    Sent: Saturday, August 06, 2005 3:45 PM
    Subject: Re: MD MOQ: Involved or on the Sideline?

    > At 3:11 AM -0700 8/2/05, Kevin Perez wrote:
    >>Hello all,
    >>
    >>I signed on to this list about a week ago after
    stumbling onto the moq.org
    >>website. I just
    >>finished my third or fourth read of ZMM and am now
    in the middle of
    >>my second read of Lila. I first read ZMM back in
    1987 and Lila in the
    >>Fall of 1992.
    >
    > Hello Kevin,
    >
    > I'm pretty new myself and somehow I missed your
    reply for while. Thanks
    > for taking up the dialogue.
    >
    >>[jc]
    >>
    >>>Ok Scott. What's the second step?
    >
    > [Kevin]
    >
    >>Choose a) to recognize that one is part of the
    problem, to change and to
    >>contribute to
    >>dynamic quality or b) to not change and to
    contribute to static quality.
    >
    > [jc]
    >
    > Abraham Lincoln said the question was not whether
    God was on Abe's side
    > but whether Abe was on God's. What can I do about
    dynamic quality to
    > improve it? It seems all I can do is be open to it
    by holding my static
    > patterns lightly - as easily dropped possessions of
    use at the moment.
    >
    > [jc]
    >
    >>>Then when or how does one know the inward work is
    done and it's time
    >>>the outward work begun?
    >
    > [Kevin]
    >
    >>One ís knowledge of when and how to act
    authentically is not based on
    >>objective,
    >>empirical evidence of any sort. The source of this
    knowledge comes from
    >>within.
    >> The following may help. It is attributed to
    Mother Teresa.
    >
    > Ok Kevin, sorry, but I never did quite get the
    mother teresa thing. Maybe
    > its childhood prejudice but I was taught from birth
    that one day the
    > catholics were going to round up my people and start
    a big bonfire. Yeah,
    > weird, I know. But anyway, Mother Teresa was a
    large social icon, still
    > is I guess, but there are many examples in the world
    of self-sacrificing
    > service to the unlovely that never had the benefit
    of a big publicity
    > machine. And I often wonder why the whole world
    acts so agog over someone
    > who did nothing more than take Christ literally.
    Socially, I can see
    > worshipping and promoting self-sacrifice. But that
    seems to me to be
    > stuck on the one level of static quality and ramping
    it up a bit.
    >
    > I'd give more credit to the dyanmic community in the
    silicon valley that
    > started a new age of information that makes it
    possible for the indian
    > people and government to generate solutions out of
    the cycles of poverty
    > and disease.
    >
    > [jc]
    >
    >>>If it is also true,
    >>>"A tribe can only change it's values person by
    person and someone
    >>>has to be first."
    >>>then who will be second, third, ....?
    >>
    >>Change happens when people act with courage and
    authenticity to ask the
    >>tough
    >>questions and then seek the difficult answers.
    >
    > [jc]
    >
    > sigh. There is a real conflict/dilemma in my mind
    in the realm of
    > personal and relational growth. It always seems a
    copout to me to
    > advocate more private contemplation as a univerals
    panacea to all the
    > world's ills. In my view, most of the people who
    act in the world should
    > spend more time contemplating and most of the
    contemplaters should start
    > acting.
    >
    > Now I'm an inveterate contemplater so I don't need
    any advice on how to do
    > more of the same. Seen my navel. All the way
    through. It's interesting,
    > yeah, but it doesn't bake the bread.
    >
    > Real change is social. The balanced individual sees
    the imbalance in the
    > world and ought to want to do something about it.
    In a way they are doing
    > nothing but acting out of their own harmonic
    balance, but in another way
    > they change everything.
    >
    > It's completely impossible to do nothing. The whole
    point of Zen is to
    > get you to realize that. The whole thing about
    striving to do nothing is
    > just a silly trick. There. I said it. I spilled
    the beans. Deal with
    > it.
    >
    > [Kevin]
    >
    >>Don't give up on Christ. And be careful. To seek
    changes on the outside
    >>without also
    >>making the necessary inward changes is dangerous.
    It's been my
    >>experience that this often leads to failure.
    >
    > [jc]
    >
    > It's been my experience that failure leads to
    success. My dad used to
    > bark on the jobsite, "DO SOMEthing, Even if it's
    wrong!" And it's true.
    > Nothing is worse than a worker that stands around
    and asks what to do
    > next. Whereas at least when you do something wrong,
    you are learning a
    > great deal.
    >
    > And to my mind, seeking change on the outer without
    the inner isn't
    > dangerous so much as impossible. I never seek
    change. Sometime something
    > needs to change. I change it. No big deal.
    >
    > [Kevin]
    >>
    >>We exist and we don't. It's a matter of
    perspective. Sometimes what we
    >>seek is hiding
    >>in plain sight.
    >
    > Well... "We exist and we don't" isn't very logical
    . Clear thinking
    > needs clear language. We exist. What hides in plain
    sight is not hidden,
    > it's ignored. And matters of perspective depend on
    how you look at them.
    > (yeah, logically tautological but I said it
    ironically so at least it was
    > half-assed rhetorically interesting)
    >
    > whimsically,
    >
    > jc

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