Hi,
> I'm just
> not sure seeing romantic love as some adult version
> of biological attachment
> is all that valuable.... Show me why I'm wrong....
The General Theory Of Love gets into this. What's the
problem? You learn to love a mix of your parents:
called the imago. So you fall in love with a mix of
them. Who you are attracted to is programmed into to
of a sort. What's the problem? Your love for your
parents is "accidental" and does not reflect your
"true" self. A higher love is self-love, but you learn
"accidental" love as a kid. Yes, accidental love works
for a lot of people but then it wears off. A love
based on self-love is a higher and stronger love than
accidental love. The problem is you are attracted to
accidental lovers and you are NOT attracted to
self-love lovers. It's a sucky problem.
> Although many of "love"
> relationships are about security
> and stem from fear there is a higher love (I don't
> think of myself as a cold-hearted cynic) but I think
> it is very different from the attachment love
The End of The Affair by Graham Greene gets into this.
The movie is good too. Self-love becomes a sort of
divine love. Sustaining passionate love is too much
for the flesh.
Angus
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