Re: MD The Transformation of Love

From: Valence (valence10@hotmail.com)
Date: Tue Jun 24 2003 - 15:55:20 BST

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    Hey Steve, Wim, Platt, all,

    >> SAM
    >>> Okeydokes, this is good. Lets have some 'terminological exactitude'. Let
    >> us accept: eros =
    >>> biological love (lust?); agape = social love (compassion?); amor =
    >> personal love (eudaimonic love?)
    >>
    >> RICK
    >> Okay, I'll accept all of that.

    STEVE
    > I think you have agape and amor reversed. I see compassion as a higher
    form
    > of love than romantic love. Romantic love (amor) has an "I'll love you if
    > you'll love me" quality to it.

    RICK
    Compassion is 'brotherly love'. It's the nonparticularized love that we're
    meant to hold for all people merely by virtue of their humanity. Romantic
    love entails individuals loving each other on the basis of particular
    personality. It would seem to me that Romantic love values preexisting
    compassion and that one cannot experience Romantic love unless they are a
    compassionate person (see earlier in this thread where Sam was discussing
    how the highest love would require satisfaction of all the lower loves
    first). However, the reverse does not hold. You don't need to be
    romantically in love with an individual before you can feel compassion for
    all. This would indicate, to me, that romantic love is the higher level,
    built upon the valued preconditions of social compassion and biological
    physical attraction.

    STEVE
    It is indeed a "personal love" which makes
    > it a lower form of love than compassion (agape) which is a disinterested
    > love that transcends self-ishness.

    RICK
    I don't think compassion is "disinterested", just nonparticularized (isn't
    "disinterested love" oxymoronic?). Compassion is the ultimate 'social'
    love. Everyone is meant to feel it for everyone else. Contrary to
    transcending notions of individuality (which is what I assume you meant by
    self-ishness) I think compassion simply precedes individuality. If there
    wasn't a single "individual personality" on Earth there could still be
    compassion, but there would be no Romance.

    take care
    rick

    Love is, above all, the gift of oneself. - Jean Anouilh

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