Re: MD The Transformation of Love

From: Valence (valence10@hotmail.com)
Date: Wed Jul 02 2003 - 00:58:28 BST

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    Hey Sam,

    > > RICK
    > > Inorganic, Biological, Social, Personal? I guess that would make the
    > > choosing unit for the 4th level "personality"?

    S
    > I would rather put 'character' than 'personality' - I think the latter is
    more fluid and contains
    > different MoQ levels; whereas I think the former is focussing in on the
    static patterns (could be of
    > both 3 and 4 level), ie the virtues.

    R
    Fair enough.

    > > RICK
    > > It's funny how you can't imagine a 4th level individual having that much
    > > respect for society, but you didn't mention disbelieving a 4th level
    > > individual would have that much respect for biology. I wonder if this
    is
    > > related to the 'alliance' thing.

    S
    > How the different levels interact is what I'm thinking about at the
    moment, in this context, ie how
    > far a "fourth level person" (a coherent idea?) can function with or
    without the wider society and be
    > healthy.

    R
    Hmm... Could this be leading to a dichotomy based on concepts of "biological
    health", "sociological health" and "4th level health"? Aristotle made such
    a distinction using the terms "physical health" "social health" and
    "emotional health".

    S
    > This notion of 'discrete conflict' would benefit from a little teasing
    out. Firstly, my point about
    > the 'satisfaction' of the levels is quite a simple one - the existence of
    higher levels is dependent
    > upon the existence of the lower levels. Just as human intelligence can
    only be sustained by physical
    > and biological processes, so too (I would say) can the higher loves only
    be sustained when the
    > earlier ones are 'satisfied' (although I'll raise a quibble about that in
    a mo). So, unless your
    > sexual drives find an outlet, you won't have the awareness to feel
    compassion for others; unless you
    > have the awareness to feel compassion for people you won't be able to love
    a particular individual.
    > My quibble is that I know a number of celibates who have highly developed
    compassion....

    R
    Sounds good to me so far. As for the compassionate celibates, if the theory
    is right, they would have to have found an alternative outlet for those
    biological drives. Any idea what it might be?

    S
    > Now, the thing about conflict also makes sense to me. Your sexual
    attraction to another person can
    > override feelings of compassion for them, and this is low Quality (it's
    called using someone).

    R
    And called "rape" at its most extreme.

    S
    > Similarly, your compassion for someone can override the specific love
    required at the fourth level
    > (think of the hackneyed example of a well-meaning parent saying 'you've
    got to go to college' and
    > the teenage tearaway saying 'you don't understand *me*!!'). Similarly, in
    a romantic relationship,
    > it might mean a general benevolence rather than a specific attachment to
    the individual. That makes
    > sense to me (although it requires a lot of fleshing out).

    R
    Your 'romantic' example reminds me of the so-called "Florence Nightingale
    Complex" which describes cases in which caretakers fall 'in love' with their
    patients.

    >
    > > RICK
    > > Maybe. I think the MoQ would suggest that patterns "love" because it's
    good
    > > for them in some ultimate sense. That is, I think that love just comes
    with
    > > the territory. Biological patterns value lust because it improves the
    odds
    > > of reproduction. Social patterns value compassion because it improves
    the
    > > odds of cooperation. Individuals value romantic love because... well,
    I'm
    > > not pretentious enough to disrespect 1000 years of poets and artists by
    > > trying to answer this one on the fly. "Why do they fall in love?" I'm
    not
    > > entirely sure why... but I'm pretty sure it somehow makes stronger,
    > > healthier individuals.

    S
    > Individuals value personal love because.... it is a high Quality activity.

    R
    But what's high-quality about it? What "greater Goods" value the
    precondition of personal love?

    take care
    rick

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